March 31, 1933 - April 08, 2017
Thursday, April 27, 2017 11:32 PM
I've spent the last few weeks quietly reflecting on as many memories as I can recall of my wonderful Mum. Sadly I don't have many, possibly due to my decision to travel as soon as I finished H.S. and the fact that I was her 'number three son', wiggly Wyley! Being the 3rd I believe had some drastic consequences as her decision to 'keep me' may have affected her relationship with my Father. Her courage and tenacity to stick to what she believed made her the great woman she was, and so not only was I born but raised with a strong sense of self-determination and freedom. In one of our best heart-to-heart talks she told be she was proud of me and even though we lived thousands of miles apart I was living out of her desires for me to be free to make my own choices about life. Bittersweet in physical distance apart but lovingly close in matters of the heart. Ma visited me twice in Australia. One of the vivid memories I have of Ma was her devotion to writing in her journal. With coloured paper and coloured ink she would be writing away and I would ask what she was writing about. Her reply was consistent, 'When I die you can read all you want, but not now.' I long to fill in the blanks of my beautiful courageous mother. As a child I had no idea of the personal and social pressure that my mum endured in 50-60's small town America, but now as a parent myself living in a far more permissive world, I understand her strength. I salute you Ma, you will always be a legend to me. My hope is that one day we will embrace again without the confines of this world. I will truely know you. All my love, Wyles
Wyley Hargraves (Seville, AK)
Thursday, April 13, 2017 2:28 PM
It has been said that when an older person dies, it is as though a library has burned down.
Although Barbara had dementia in her later years, her life was full and was lived to the fullest experiencing all that life gives with happiness, sadness, family, health, friends-and wisdom.
Barbara, to me, was one of the most genuine of women I've ever met. She was not only beautiful on the outside but in the inside. A truly beloved wife and mom. I greatly admired Tom for his unfailing dedication and devotion to her in her waning years and throughout their marriage. My condolences to Tom, Donna, sons and other family and friends. You were much loved Barbara. You touched my heart.
Roxanne (Mpls., MN)
Monday, April 10, 2017 10:13 AM
Our Mom touched and helped many lives in her quiet way and we will be so happy to hear your memories of her. Please leave them here.