May 18, 1956 - January 18, 2012
Kirk Joseph Phillips' momentary light affliction ended and he was ushered into the glory of his heavenly Father and the presence of his risen Lord, Jesus Christ, early in the evening of 18JAN2012, surrounded by his loving family.
Kirk, 55, of Lowell, NC is survived by his wife of 30 years, Maureen; daughter and son-in-law, Kaity and Mike McCrary and their sons, Riley and Wyatt, of Currie, NC; and daughter, Hayley, of Lowell. Kirk is also survived by his parents, Ginny and Ish Phillips, of Westminster, MD; brother, Bruce, and his wife, Brenda, of Virginia Beach, VA; brother, Glenn, and his wife, Pat, of Durham, NC; sister, Penny, and her husband, Bob Lynch, of Westminster, MD. Kirk's nieces and nephews and their spouses will remember Kirk with love: Kyle O'Loughlin, Brianna O'Loughlin, Kevin O'Loughlin, JAG and Philip O'Loughlin, Steve O'Loughlin, Heather and Rocky Viscito, Gurpreet and Jed O'Loughlin, Corey O'Loughlin, Julie and Jason Nelson, Brendan Nelson, Kerri and Cale Phillips, Veronica Phillips, Virginia Phillips, Victoria Phillips, Megan Lynch, Trevor Lynch.
Born in Plainfield, NJ, and residing most of his youth in Bridgewater, NJ, Kirk attended Green Knoll and Van Holten Elementary Schools and Eisenhower Middle School. Kirk graduated in 1974 from Bridgewater-Raritan West High School where he was a drummer in the marching band, towering over the rest of his band mates and played the sax with several rock bands. Majoring in music, Kirk also attended Notre Dame College in Manchester, NH.
He was a talented and gifted drummer who also played the saxaphone and flute and dabbled in guitar. Kirk met Maureen in 1975 when she responded to a newspaper ad for a lead singer that Kirk's band had placed. They played in several bands over many years - most memorably - "Second Generation", a wedding band that evolved as it was passed down to Kirk by his dad. The love of music was a gift shared by and which continued to bless the couple even in Kirk's final days. This love of music lives on in his wife, daughters, son-in-law and grandsons.
Kirk delighted in the addition of each of his daughters and grandsons to his life and reveled in his roles as Daddy and beloved "Kirkles" (his grandfather name). Together they shared a love of books, games, imaginary play, travel and sight-seeing. One of his favorite pastimes was to get down on the floor with the little ones, actively involving himself in their chatter, laughter and play. He was also a very hands-on dad and granddad, tag-teaming with Maureen at meal, bath, travel, etc. times, lovingly attending to their needs.
Maureen and Kirk are members of Parkwood Baptist Church in Gastonia. Kirk loved studying, discussing, sharing and growing in the word of God with his friends from Parkwood as he did previously in Whispering Pines Baptist Church in Wilmington, NC and The Church of the Epiphany in Brick, NJ. Deeply involved in student ministry in Brick and Wilmington as well as with music ministry, Kirk led praise and worship from behind his drums. He was also the source of strength and support, partnering with Maureen in her musical ministry endeavors with children over the years. His church families ministered sweetly and faithfully to Kirk and his family in their time of great need.
We also remember that Kirk was quite the handyman around the house and had no fear of tackling and solving new challenges as they arose. His yard was always beautifully manicured and maintained.
As he was a multi-media geek and guru, Kirk's family and friends reaped the benefits of his fascination with and desire to keep informed of the latest developments in computers, sound systems, phones, software, etc. He gathered and collected computer parts and enjoyed refurbishing and putting together systems for others who didn't have computers of their own.
The Lord equipped and blessed Kirk with a long and successful career in industrial sales in which he traveled around the world and throughout most of the US. Maureen and the girls were able to accompany Kirk on many occasions and have treasured memories of their travels and adventures. Most recently, as a well-regarded and respected Sales Engineer with BRECOflex CO., LLC of Eatontown, NJ, he served the territories of North and South Carolina since relocating to the Charlotte area in January of 2006. Kirk's family is grateful to have this opportunity to thank BRECOflex for their generous and compassionate concern for and support of them throughout Kirk's illness.
Playing all types of games was a another favorite pastime for Kirk. There were many marathon game nights spent playing Phase 10, Mexican Train Dominoes, Pictionary, Hearts, Oh Poop, Scattergories and Wii. He was an extremely creative and incorrigible cheat, which was not a detriment to his character - just part of the fun. Many times he would laugh so hard he would cry when he had succeeded in cheating without being detected, only to lose the game anyway. Deserving a quick mention is Maureen and Kirk's impressive record for winning egg and water balloon tossing games at church picnics and family reunions.
Maureen is so thankful to have been paired with this man who toiled diligently throughout their marriage to provide and care for her, their family and others in need. His dedication as provider enabled Maureen to remain at home with Kaity and Hayley, an unspeakable blessing, honor and privilege.
God-loving, faithful, trustworthy, hard-working, capable. So tall, strong and handsome. A beautiful, gentle, passionate man. We have been greatly blessed to know and love you and to have been loved by you. How we miss you and long for the day when we will be reunited in the glory and presence of our good and gracious God.
A gathering to celebrate Kirk's Homecoming was held:
Kirk's family invites loved ones to contribute photos, videos and written memories and tributes to this memorial web site by selecting the Journal, Memory Book, Photo or Media Gallery, Timeline and Message Center features. It would be a wonderful way for his grandchildren to come to know who their “Kirkles” was and, of course, it would be a treasure to the rest of our famiy as well.